Repost from 8/9/10
Have you ever been listening to someone, only to discover they were still talking but you had stopped listening? I’m sorry to say that I have done so! As I scramble in my brain to try to catch up, attempting to attach current words with past sentences without a bridge; it is an exercise in futility and a disservice to the speaker. The right thing to do is to interrupt, make an apology, and ask for clarification.
But the truth is a person usually knows when they are not being listened to. They might be too kind, embarrassed, angry or rejected to say anything but they have gotten the message. When I do not take the time to pay attention and hear what they are saying I am letting them know they are not important to me. “But you are important!” I insist. Okay, but are they important enough?
What is important enough? It is something that is crucial or essential and will spark me to action. So, if I want my husband, my child, my friend, to “know and believe” that I not only love them but I care about them deeply – I had better watch my messages. If I want an acquaintance to “know and believe” I am a trustworthy child of God who will pray with and for her – I had better watch my messages. If I want my coworkers to see the love of God through me – I had better watch my messages.
I’m not suggesting that my goal is to be an “on call” listener. That wouldn’t be practical or balanced. But when I do give someone the time of day – I want to give them all of their moments, not every other one. I can’t help but think – that listening to others carefully and thoughtfully – will help me to listen to Him.
Dear Lord, Please give me ears to hear and a heart to understand.
“Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock.”
Matthew 7:24-25
And we are confident in the Lord that you are doing and will continue to do the things we commanded you. May the Lord lead your hearts into a full understanding and expression of the love of God and the patient endurance that comes from Christ.
2 Thessalonians 3:4-6 “(NLT)
Written by Mary M. Wilkins
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